The Meat Market Revisited: Timing, State, and the Reality of Club Approaches
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A few weeks later I went back to the university bar meat market with renewed enthusiasm. The school year had just started and the place smelled of opportunity. I made a habit of going to places a bit early to avoid the insane line ups outside. It also gave me time to acclimatize.
It often seemed like approaches at the beginning of the night were a write-off, and later on was usually when things would happen. There was a long dissertation of sorts, on the forum that explained this phenomenon. It was called Kipps Nightclub Guide. It was written by a 36 year old man named Kipp. One of the key points he explained was that women would usually end up leaving with guys they met later in the night rather than with guys they met earlier on. And add to that the alcohol factor and the rejections by guys that they REALLY wanted, you have an opportunity to help them reaffirm their sexiness (which you are more than happy to do). Plus, according to Kipp, age difference wasn't really an issue. And that was good news for me.
The University Bar Advantage And Strategic Positioning
There was definitely a vibe at the university bar that girls were more eager than usual to meet new people. I had the logic behind this all figured out. You see, the usual cock-blocks weren't there because these girls didn't yet make the friends and social connections which cause the formation of cock-blocks. Plus if you were there you were already, in a sense, part of the (university) social group, which created a feeling of familiarity (i.e. you are not quite a stranger). If they asked me my age I would say I was 24, and in fourth year. And if something happened (like a ONS - one night stand) the "time dimension" was small enough so that lying wouldn't matter. When considering age gaps in dating and relationships, younger women at university venues often don't perceive significant age differences the same way they would in other contexts.
It was also part of my thinking that many of the guys there were inexperienced players, so I had an advantage (I was going out a lot and learning fast).
My approaches went okay. The dance floor was good for grinding up against girls but it got ridiculously crowded and hot after a while. It made my hair get frizzy. Gel was an indispensable wingman I soon found out.
One thing I learned was that in clubs, it was better to wear a white shirt rather than a black shirt. With black shirts, if they have any specks of lint at all on them they stand out like a sore thumb under the club lighting. So any items of black clothing left lying around in my room for a few days or weeks was a no-go for clubbing, unless they were cleaned thoroughly beforehand with a lint roller.
The Timing Game And The Flaking Problem
After doing 5-10 approaches with mixed results I relaxed a bit. It was around midnight. I was standing at the edge of the dance floor just chilling out. These two girls danced beside me. One of them looked right at me. Having reached "state" I took the opportunity and opened her right away. I asked her how her night is going. She said it was going good and that she had had quite a bit to drink. I asked her if she was too drunk to dance. She said no. I said "Let's find out". This was a smooth transition. I began dancing with her, real close. I was looking at her seductively. She was going DDBL (Doggy Dinner Bowl Look - an acronym used by the community). I moved in slowly, nuzzling her neck. I then kissed her. She was totally into it. It was a heavy makeout session on the dance floor. This girl was sexy, 20 years old with a great body.
We chatted a bit about normal everyday stuff like where she likes to hang out, what she is studying, etc. Her friend seemed to be encouraging her to hook up with me. Now in these situations a question often arose in my mind: Was it better to go for the ONS or wait, given the fact that if you wait she may be less likely to have ASD. But on the other hand, if you do go for the ONS she might ditch you and never want to see you again because you went for it too fast. But on another hand still, if you wait then that might be a cop out in her mind since the iron is hot now. Guys would often post about this dilemma on the seduction forum. How do you know when to...(insert whatever)...
Figuring it was better to be safe than sorry I got her email. I initiated another makeout but not as heavy as the first time since things were winding down for the night. I then left.
I emailed her a few days later. But got no response. I emailed her again, teasing her a bit, saying that it was too soon to be playing hard to get (a David DeAngelo line). She responded and said: "Listen I was drunk and didn't know what I was doing. So leave me the fuck alone!" Ouch. Wow... what a turnaround I thought. I let it go at that and didn't bother responding, not even to tell her off. Dealing with young girls, it seemed, was a whole other issue. Maybe it was better to go for the ONS with them after all.
